Modi and his Invisible Wife

The BJP’s Prime Minister Narendra Modi had left his wife 4 decades back

 Life is funny, on one hand older men are marrying younger women and on the other hand many men are just deserting their wives and leaving the poor lady to fend for herself. One such case concerns the BJP candidate for Prime Minister Mr. Narendra Modi. This man married a lady from nearby his village 4 decades back and then told her he was leaving. He just packed his bags and never went back to her for 4 decades. The poor lady studied and got a job as a teacher and has now retired. She never married as Modi never divorced her and she is still loyal to this man.

I don’t know what to make of this. This is not good news about Modi and the man must explain his reasons for behaving like this. What sort of example is he  setting for Indians ? Thus, when he talks of empowerment of women, he sounds so hollow. I wonder what he feels when he looks at him in the mirror.

Gift of the Raj: Maid as Mistress * 68

The British ruled India for close to 200 years. From the time Robert Clive won the Battle of Plessey in 1757 to 1947 they were the imperial rulers of India. Along with this is the fact that just about 100,000 Englishmen administered a vast country of 250- 350 million (the population at that time).  Most of these Englishmen worked with zeal and genuinely loved India. It is also known that thousands of them worked in far flung areas all alone, without any female company. This was a dangerous period for the lonely Englishman, as he was often prey to his sexual desires and ended up by sleeping with his maid. In effect the Indian maid became the mistress of the house. In many case these maids also became pregnant and their offspring became the Anglo-Indians.

This was the state of affairs in British India for close to 200 years and there is one movie titled "Before the rains' that gives expression and credence to this fact. The movie starring Rahul Bose and Nadia Das was produced by Merchant Ivory production and garnered over one million dollars at the box office. It was made in English and faithfully depicts the sexual liaison of an Englishman in a remote corner of Kerala with an Indian maid played by Nadia Das.The role of the Englishman is depicted with great conviction by Linus roache.His love scenes with Nandita Das, who plays the maid, have a degree of finesse and lovely to behold.

The movie states an obvious fact that the maid culture of maids as mistresses of lonely Englishmen was a fact of life. This aspect has not been touched by most Indian writers and it required Merchant Ivory business house to produce a film and highlight this fact. The English were benign rulers and treated their subjects with due courtesy and respect. The propaganda by pseudo nationalists that the British Raj was all bad is a canard, best thrown into the dustbin. The maid- master relationship is actually a theme of the Victorian age, where we read so many tales with the maid asking the master “Sir was I good?"

The maid -mistress culture lasted for as long as the Raj (a euphemism for British rule). After the British left in 1947, this culture did not end and the new rich and ruling class copied this aspect of the Raj. We do have tens of maid now working in the houses of the ultra-rich and sexual liaisons are very much part of the scenario.

Harems and White Christian Women * 69

White women in Muslim harem

Many have wondered as I do as to how the white women who were kidnapped from the villages of Europe fared in a harem where the predominant women were all Muslim. White women kidnapped were all Christian and the Arab Sheiks and Caliphs loved the white women. They coveted them as a diamond and had a fetish for white women complete with hymen. In short they wanted total virgins.

The word Harem is derived from the Egyptian word Harim which means women. So the Harem was only for women and white christian women and girls were inducted into it. However for the white christian women the Sheiks were a little more lenient and life for them was easier, but it was like a prison all the same.

The white women were given better quarters and had women slaves to attend to them. They could also purse interests in song and dance. The Arabs prized their white women in the harem and spent more time with them than with other women.

 In short the white women from the villages were more privileged than the local women in the harem. They were however converted to Islam  and not allowed to go out. But the Arab rulers spent more time with them

Tamil Girls and Fairness * 77

A look at the Tamil screen shows that the heroines are fair skinned. I have yet to see a dark skinned heroine on the South Indian screen. Even Jayalalita when she was a star is milky white in complexion. These milky white complexioned stars contribute to a beauty culture in South India where skin-whitening creams outsell Coca-Cola. Yet the fact is that most Tamil and South Indian girls are dark complexioned. I wonder why a dark complexioned girl cannot strike out in the Tamil film industry.

One aspect that is overlooked is that the ancient scriptures, epics, or folk tales in Tamil or for that matter in any Indian language, the good character is always portrayed as being fair in complexion. A beautiful princess is always without fail described as being fair and white as snow. This is a dangerous portrayal as it is suggesting that the fair are fair good and the dark complexioned has evil intentions. This view has been expressed by Shyamala Bhatia, an associate professor in history at the Bharati College, University of Delhi.

If you add that the white race ruled India and their women were white than it becomes clear why the concept of fairness being superior is embedded deep within the Indian psyche.

But even after the white rulers went away, India‘s concepts of beauty has not changed. Thus milky-complexioned Tamil stars to a massive market for skin lightening creams, the notion that white means beautiful is all pervading in South India. The word for fairness in Hindi is “GORI” and in Tamil it is நேர்மை

Nērmai. I am afraid it will not go from the South Indian psyche.

Second Wife for a Non Muslim by Converting to Islam

Is It Correct For A Couple To Marry A Second Time By Converting To Islam?

Islam in India allows a man to have more than one wife and this is used by many to bypass the Hindu Marriage Act

Is it Correct for a Man or Woman to Convert to Islam to Marry a Second Woman?

India is a land beset by myriad problems and one of these is battle for a uniform civil code. The Indian constitution lays down in the Directive Principles, the need for the state to enact a uniform civil code for all and that includes Muslims.

For reasons of vote bank politics the Indian political leadership has ignored the Directive Principles, with the result that Hindu personal law is codified and one can marry only one wife, the Muslim personal law is still governed by the Sharia and that means easy divorce and up to 4 wives.  The restriction of one wife is something many Hindus want to circumvent so that they can marry again and it is known that many convert to Islam and then get married, as Islam permits a second wife. Thus there is no chance of a case of bigamy being filed.

One of the celebrated cases concerns the film star Dharmendra and his consort Hema Malini. According to the Hindu Marriage Act, a Hindu cannot marry a second time while the first wife is still alive. Dharmendra is an Arya Samaj Hindu Punjabi. Hema Malini wanted to marry Dharmendra and on August 21, 1979, both Hema and Dharmendra converted to Islam. They changed their names to Aisha Bi R. Chakra arty and Dilawar Khan Kewal Krishna respectively, and got married as Muslims by conducting Nikah.  This is just an example, but there are tens of such cases.

Under Hindu marriage act no Hindu can marry again without getting a divorce from the first wife, but many in India take the easy path out by converting to Islam to circumvent the law. This question is great importance and the reason is the two sets of separate personal laws of the Hindus and Muslims. This needs to be rectified and also needs a political will. One fact that cannot be obviated is, that unless some social stigma is attached to such cases, they will continue. The BJP which talks of Ram Rajya has rehabilitated Hema Malini and a lady who converted to Islam is their star campaigner.  What a shame. Could not the BJP find anybody else?  I wonder what example this lady is setting to the rank and file of Hindu women all over India. Come to think of it, even Dharmendra was made an MP, but he flopped in that role.

 Pandit Nehru comes out as the arch villain of all this, as in 1955 he got the Hindu marriage act passed, but left the Muslim personal law intact.  It must be remembered that in the state of Goa the Portuguese enforced the uniform civil code and one wife and Muslims there accepted it. Had Nehru passed the uniform civil code at that time such cases would not have occurred?

Cure of Pre mature Ejaculation Through Tantra

 This is a very common phenomenon and most men at some stages of their lives suffer from it, either temporarily or for longer periods.

Premature Ejaculation and Tantra

Modern science does not have any sure shot cure for premature ejaculation and most doctors will treat it as a psychological problem. But in Hinduism there is a cure and that is through Tantra sex.

 Hinduism recognizes Tantra sex as one of the paths to salvation. A deeper study reveals that Orgasm is not the goal of Tantra sex and once a man has understood this, the rest will automatically fall in place.

Steps in Tantra Sex

 Tantra sex is a slow ritualistic sex and man must follow the tenets bravely. There is no room for tension. It will be a help in case his partner also believes in he power of Tantra.  Thus a man must try and follow the steps outlined below

b)     The second step is the art of disrobing your partner. This again is a slow process and should be followed up by a massage of the partner’s body with aromatic oils.a)     He must first  create an atmosphere for the sex act by burning incense sticks and having soft religious music in the background

c)     The man must caress the erogenous zones and build up for the next stage. In this he must remember the saying of the great sage Vatsyayana that “all parts that can be kissed and licked can also be bitten”. This needs no elucidation

d)     The act itself is the last part, but not the main object. Time is of essence as Tantra sex  requires a lot of time and it relaxes the individual. Once both partners are ready the next step can be taken without thinking of orgasm. The aim is to bring the partner to a sublime level where ejaculation itself loses meaning.

Last Word

 The last part of Tantra sex is belief in the act of Tantra sex. Unless you have the confidence in Tantra the chances that you will achieve anything are pretty slim.  Modern US doctors have also vouchsafed for it.

A word of caution, participants must remember that Tantra sex is not something that can be done alone, but needs a guru who will guide the participants through the stages of Tantra sex