The Psychology of Sex; Is there a Chemistry ?

There is a chance that you will be envious of a pal who moves about with a lovely girl on his arm while you don’t know what to do. Perhaps you feel this guy knows exactly which women to approach while you are clueless and at the end of your tether. You wonder maybe this chap has magic or maybe not. The truth is something simpler and is referred to as the Psychology of sex. Perhaps as a man you might think farfetched that just by looking at a girl you can forecast how she will react. But don’t dismiss this out of hand as there is some truth in this. Yes! One can certainly make a surmise by just looking at the girl what her reaction will be. This is a psychic ability to divine into a girls mind. I don’t think it is magic, but it is a divination that comes from the mind as a man decides how to approach a girl. It is like establishing chemistry, its easy but not all that simple. It is what we refer to as body language and once you vibe with the girl she will respond. he body is a giveaway. It could be an inane act of picking up a fallen handkerchief or just the way a girl breezes into an apartment store or simply sitting with legs crossed or uncrossed. The body language is the clue and one must be in the right mind to divine it.

The hands of a girl are the biggest giveaways. Event palmists concentrate on the hand and this is the biggest clue. Watching the hands will be the acid test. You will have to observe her hands closely. Generally girls are shy in case their hands are slim and pointed fingers. They are also more the dreamers. Large hands on the other hand show obstinacy and you will require greater and harder work to make any headway here. The body is the next in line. Slim girls are dreamier and need greater attention. They could be moody and emotional. Big boned girls will be large hearted. They are apt to be more open to deeper emotions.

Now have a look at her eyes. These requite careful observation. Large eyes show the girl as adventurous while small eyes show caution. Keep a look out for colors and the dress she wears. A slim girl in a pale sari is likely to be more of an extrovert, while a girl in shalwar kameez more staid. Girls in skirts are more open and become friends easily. What I have written is just the tip of the iceberg. You will have to observe the girl in the classroom or the office. You will have to strike chemistry with her. There is no clear cut mantra, but remember to be brave for faint hear never won fair woman

Some Half Truths about the Rani of Jhansi that need Elucidation

RaniLaxmibai of jhansi ( 1835-58) is romanticized as a great woman who fought for the "Independence" of India . She was a brave woman who took on the might of the Raj and died fighting. In her last battle her troops were surrounded by Sir Hugh Rose   and she was killed on 17 March 1858. Sir HughRose the British commander was himself wounded  and later commented that " The Rani was the bravest and greatest of the commanders of the mutiny". All this is very well but some half truths need to be re-stated for history to recognize the truth. The Rani was married at the age of 13 to Raja of Jhansi Maharaj Ganghadhar Rao Newalkar who was 40 years older to her. She gave birth to a son in 1851, who died and after that the maharaj Rao and Laxmibai adopted another boy as heir. This was not recognized by the British. The Mahraj Rao died in 1853 and Rani Laxmibai carried out a ceremony installing the adopted boy as the heir. She appealed to the English to recognize this. The British however did not approve and the Rani repeatedly appealed to the English to recognize the young adopted boy as the heir to the throne of Jhansi. She was not all inclined to fight the English and many overtures to the East India Company. In case the British had accepted the young adopted boy as the Maharaj of Jhansi, theRani was prepared to side with the East India company. The rejection of her request led the  Rani to launch her fight against the British. Her entire aim was very limited and just consisted of allowing her adopted son to rule Jhansi, freedom of India  was never in her mind. Thus the rani was interested in local issues, but her army despite being aided by Tantya Tope was defeated  on all fronts. She fought bravely, but it is small consolation  for the poor performance of the troops of  Tantya Tope and the Rani in battles with the English army.

The Jama Masjid at Fatehpur Sikri was built on a Hindu Temple

Fatehpur Sikri is about 50 km from Agra and for about 15 years was the capital of the Mughal empire. This was during the time of Akbar the great, who became emperor of Hindustan after defeating Samrat Hemu in the 3rd battle of Panipat in 1556. After some years Akbar shifted to Agra and later to Fatehpur Sikri. The place at present is looked after by the ASI ( Archeological Society of India). Incidentally the ASI was set up during the days of the Raj. One monument however is alive and that is the Jama Masjid. This mosque was erected between 1571-76 by Muslim saint named Salim Chisti. The mosque is made of red sandstone and has an outer wall and a large courtyard. The sad part is that this mosque from accounts given by the local people stands on the ruins of an Hindu temple. It is surmised that this mosque was dedicated to Lord Shiva One of the banes of Muslim power is the destruction of Hindu temples and the erection of Mosques over them the samething happened at Fatehpur Sikri. The mosque is known as the Jama Masjid and dedcated to Salim Chisti who is entpmbed here. A look at the walls and the main gate will show typical Hindu structures like 'chatris' with Hondu motifs. These are a giveaway and point to the origin of the Jama Masjid being on a Hindu temple. The mosque is a besutiful piece of architecture and has a Buland Darwaza ( large doorway) with paintings on its walls. The paintings are somewhat faded and need restoration work. The mosque proper has the mazar of Salim Chisti. Akbar it appears was fond of this mosque, hence it lies in close proximity to the Royal Palace where his favorite queen Jodha bai resided.

Two Singing Stars from America; Roy Rogers and Gene Autry

When I was a boy the comics of Roy Rogers and his horse Trigger and Gene Autry with his horse Champion did the rounds of our classrooms. They were both stupendous characters and were what we term as ‘Cowboy singing stars’. They played their roles to perfection and both sang some lovely country hits that still do the rounds of bars in the mid west and east in the United States.

Gene Autry Gene Autry married, but he had no children, but he remained faithful till his wife died in 1981. Rogers himself departed in 1998 and is remembered as one of the most versatile stars of the west on Hollywood screen. His more famous Christmas songs are still sung like ‘Rudolph the red nosed Reindeer.’ Gene was a cowboy star and carved a name for himself both on the radio, the TV and films. He for decades was one of the richest stars of Hollywood. For 10 years he starred in TV serials and endeared himself to the public. Roy Rogers

Parallel to Gene Autry was Roy Rogers. He also expired in 1998 and that signaled the end of an age of Hollywood. Roy Rogers with his horse trigger and wife Dale Evans career ran parallel to Gene Autry. He was last seen active in early 1990 Oscar awards function. Both men were inducted into Hollywood’s legendary Singing stars hall of fame. My preference was for Gene Autry who in his films and comics followed a strict code of conduct. He was clear; help children and women and never shoot first at an opponent and never in the back. Last Word

Both Roy Rogers and Gene Autry are part of history and Hollywood is the richer for these stars that lit the screen with action and songs for 5 decades. That’s some achievement!

The Roman Poet Ovid : Love, Sex and Rape

The Roman Empire is one of the largest and most enduring empires. It spanned a gigantic area from France to Asia Minor. It also produced a retinue of classical writers and philosophers. One of the classical poets of this period is Ovid. This man was born in 43 BC in Rome. This was during the reign of Augustus. Many consider this as the golden age of Rome. It was a period when the Roman empire consolidated and many artists and poets emerged. One of these was Ovid who is recognized as one of the immortals as far as verse is considered. His relationship with Augustus was not very happy. It is possible he was implicated for lovong a high class Roman girl. Many conjecture that this girl was relayed to Augustus or his daughter. But Ovid wad exiled from Rome by Augustus. Ovid died at the age of 57 or 58 in 15-17AD. But in his span of 58 years Ovid created some lovely poetry.

In the modern age Ovid is recognized as the last of the classical poets of the Roman era.

Ovid wrote a number of books with verses. His'Art of love` is a stand out verse. Ovid describes love and allows the reader to infer about rape with his verses on the `Gaze.` Ovid was of the view that a rape can only commence after a man gazes at a woman. A gaze by a man in which he takes stock of the woman for carnal knowledge is the beginning of rape. Ovid himself does not describe the rape in his verses, but as a master poet leaves it to the imagination of the reader.

 This is classical poetry and proves that Ovid was a master of the verse. His other works are Heroides, Amores and Ars Amatoria, and o Metamorphoses, Ovid wrote other works as well, but his forte was poetry and verse. There is no doubt he wad the pulse of poetry creation in his grip. Ovid was perhaps a great lover himself. Ther is no doubt that to write love poetry an element of personal experience is always a great help. Ovid died at the age of perhaps 56 or 58. Despite a relatively short span Ovid is recognized as one of the great romantic poets from the classical age from Rome

The Sense of Smell and Sex

Sometime back I had read of a party in New York where the sense of smell dictated partners an dtheir choice. The nuts and bolts was something like this. in an exclusive gathering T Shirts of girl were put in a large open carton and the men were expected to pick up the T Shirt of girl and smell it and make a choice. The host would flash the biodata of the man on a large screen and in case the girl was happy with it, the matter would proceed forward and the two could meet and date. On my visit to Mumbai from Singapore I was pleasently surprised to recieve an invitation for a similar party at his private residense. I attended in my best attire with my blazer sporting my airforce emblem. I handed my bio to my host who announced the rollicking game to begin with a dash of whiskey doing the rounds. There were 15 girls and an equal number of men for this gala occassion.

I spent some time pondering what to do and soon decided to be part of the party. I went to the carton and picked up some T shirts and tried to smell teh aorma. franly I could not detect any odor that could appeal to me. I picked up a blue T Sirt and smelled it. It had a lot of perfume sprayed and it was of small size. Somehoe I liked the arma of teh shirt and signalled my assent. My bio was flashed on the makeship screen and in 30 seconds a girl rushed forward. I was pleasently surprised she was from Assam a state I love and have spent quite a few years there during my stint in the Air Force.

It was a rolicking party and I wonder whether smell has some effect on the sexual relationship between a man and a woman. Maybe there is something and this is one field of study that can be explored by social scientists.

The Concept of Houries or Celestial Beauties in Islam

lims consider the Koran as the word of God. Its contents are sacred. Chapter 52-56 of the Koran specifies a reward for the true believers: men who follow all the injunctions as lay down by Allah and the Koran. These rewards are in the form of Houris or beautiful and spotless virgins. The Koran specifies that these women await at the gates of paradise to give pleasure to the faithful.

The Koran does not lay down any numbers, but the Hadiths’ specify that their number is 72. The Koran says that these houris or celestial nymphs are hairless except for the eyebrows and the head. The Houris characteristics are described in detail and are all feminine. The Koran specifies that in addition to the Houris, an unspecified number of boys will also be available. Among the characteristics of the houris is their celestial quality of being eternal virgins. In that they will re-grow their hymens after each intercourse. They are supposed to be buxom with breasts that do not droop or sag. The concept of the Houris is unique in Islam. The nearest equivalent is the angel in Christianity and the Apsara in Hinduism. The Apsara are also celestial maidens who dance and sing for the believers. But the Angels and Apsara do not have any relation to physical pleasures, which is the purpose of the Houris.

The houris are an inviolable concept in Islam and they are a reward to the faithful who have spent a lifetime in service of Islam and obeyed all the injunctions as laid down. The Koran says that all those who die as a martyr to the faith will be rewarded with these houris.

The concept of the houris is terrific motivator in Islam and many young men have been motivated to kill themselves with the dream of Houris. It must be understood that Islam has a strong mystical tradition which places these heavenly delights in the context of ecstatic awareness of God.